Stewarding Your Soul: UNCORKelevate 2025-26
Thanks to all for coming! It was a big success. Many reported great things.
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PHOTOS
Grief, Boundaries, and Stewarding Your Own Soul
Since 2020 when the UNCORKelevate healing mentoring program first commenced, every year has been an exercise in self stewardship, boundaries, and self accountability.
From a religious mindset, boundaries are rigid.
They are based on sin.
They are based on evil and good.
Everyone’s boundaries are the same.
It’s judgment on others to say “no” to what other people think they need from you.
From a grace mindset, however, boundaries are based on my needs at this time. They are based on how I’ve grown, my capacity at this time, my desires, how I want to get fed, my sow-rest-reap balance, and also my creative trajectory for that season. What I need or want to focus on and put energy-time-attention into are also big.
What is drawing me with joy? A big one is — what energy do I have (or not) for the upcoming season? To clarify, which projects draw me in, and which ones are merely obligatory? How is God the biggest cheerleader and defender for your boundaries?
Bottom Line
All of this “stuff” makes up what I need for this season.
This knowledge of boundaries/self stewardship/needs has evolved over our time doing UNCORKelevate. Every lesson has been super valuable. Additionally, every time the Spirit shines light on an additional boundary or need for the year.
From there grief pops up. Anger. Fear. Sadness. Usually about why that need didn’t get met before. From a childhood lens it can sound like this:
Why didn’t anyone do anything?
Why didn’t anyone step in?
What didn’t anyone reach out or notice?
Where was the reciprocity?
From a more recent adulthood lens these things can morph into:
How did I become everyone else’s emotional utility?
How did I get used to support everyone else’s life but no one supports mine?
Why is everyone interested in my helping them find success and happiness but can’t cheer for my success and happiness?
Why am I expected to save people over and over who won’t lift a finger to save themselves?
etc.
These are childhood wounds that are getting unearthed at a deeper level so we can level up — into more fulfilling attractions and relationships and situations for the future. As adults we usually think our current relationships are going to change when we heal, and some of them do— especially those who are soul family, especially those who are on a similar pacing and growth trajectory.
There aren’t many on this path however. At least not until we reach our final form on the planet, and then it’s time for full glory.
Many are welcome and few are chosen as it were … ;) But also, that’s fine. People grow at their own pace, and they are meant to. It’s not the pace but rather the authentic path that’s important. If I’m going to mess up your authentic growth trajectory, or you mine, then God is obliged to do some quantum disentanglement, or a type of spiritual surgery to save us both from getting in each others way.
So, what happens more often with peripheral connections,or people whose path is splitting from mine?
People begin to go at their own pace.
It becomes increasingly clear that they can’t give you what you rightfully need in reciprocity, and holding your breath for them doesn’t help.
You realize that you must let them be where they are.
You start to grieve what you didn’t get as a child.
God inspires trust to bring you what you’re missing because he always does bring it.
You put out a creative container (or many) in faith to catch the new blessing(s).
This is the process we increasingly go through, especially over the past several years during the UNCORKelevate launch season. This year is no different.
If you feel called to join us on a similar quest, welcome!
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Email us for anything you need:
znevins@uncorkgenius.com
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God loves the whole you.
